A progression from watching is the actual joining in and the possibility of an overexcited watcher trying to take advantage has to be considered. Where there is no physical separation between those swinging and those watching, make certain that they are aware that they either can join in or not. It should never happen that any of those swinging are unaware that they are being watched. As with all swinging activities it is imperative that all participants are know exactly to what is occurring and consent to it.

There is no reason to be ashamed of being a swinger. This is a lifestyle of choice, freely undertaken and inoffensive to all but the most intolerant. If others do not wish to enjoy the freedoms that swingers have, that is their problem – no one is trying to force them to do anything they do not wish to do. Why then do they think they have the right to condemn others for their choice of life style?  Do not let the disguised envy of the more inhibited people or outdated so called moral standards make you feel guilty or uneasy about your choice. As long as what you do is not illegal or having an adverse effect on others, proceed with a clear conscience. The old fashioned notion that pleasure is sinful is ludicrous so enjoy the freedom swinging provides without shame or guilt.

There are some aspects of a relationship that can only fully established by a meeting in person but the use of a website reduces this to a minimum. Feedback from individuals, couples or groups can provide a screening process in which any demonstrating unacceptable behaviour can be either excluded or cautioned as to further conduct. The speed and convenience of the website method of meeting people has proved to be another incentive for those who choose to follow a more liberated style of life. There is also the added advantage that anyone entering these websites is of a like mind and a degree of privacy arises which did not exist when contacts were made by direct face to face encounters.

No does mean no and should be accepted with good grace. It is not suitable to show signs of disapproval or criticism and pressure to change their mind should never be exerted. If the refusal does not appear to be unequivocal, gentle persuasion would not be inappropriate but ensure this involves coaxing – not bullying. Meetings should result in a pleasurable experience for all involved so do not spoil an occasion if you do not get everything exactly as you might like

As the use of computers is almost universal, the ability to select contacts that are likely to be compatible is available to most if not all potential and existing swingers. Not only are messages almost instantaneous but photographs of people who may wish to meet be exchanged. This can avoid the chance of arranging a meeting with those who are patently unsuitable.

It is essential that exchanges of details or photos are accurate and honest as providing others with misleading information will invariably lead to an unsatisfactory outcome.

Today, membership of clubs represent all sections of the community and cater for all (legal) tastes. Members can meet and freely indulge in their mutual interests and whilst the prime incentive to join a club is to expand sexual horizons, conventional social activities are still welcome. Whether members just wish to relax over a drink and engage in conversation or take part in a wide variety of games is their choice. Many clubs have facilities providing privacy or allowing others to watch or join in. For those who enjoy S & M well equipped rooms are available in clubs that specialise in this practice. Organised parties with special theme nights can prove popular occasions and a lively imagination can come up with an event to appeal to all. The benefit of club membership is that you can be assured that other members share a common interest.

There is a large number of clubs listed on Swinging Heaven’s website and it is easy to make contact and join a local club which suits your requirements.

For couples who have not known each other so long, a greater level of care needs to be taken. Individuals do vary considerably and trust needs to be established before any discussion on the subject is brought up. This is particularly so when one partner is less experienced in sexual matters. As the relationship progresses it should become easier to introduce the idea of joining the swinging world but it is unwise to force the point at too early a stage.

There are many couples who find that being allowed to escape the restrictions of a more conventional relationship brings them even closer together. However, if the feelings of the partner are ignored or not freely discussed, it can cause a rift. It is wise – and can also be a source of enjoyment – in sharing each other’s reaction to the events they participate in.

Occasionally, one partner may derive more pleasure from an encounter than the other. It is important to recognise this possibility in advance and at least try to balance the benefit each can obtain.

An adverse effect that can occur is when one partner becomes emotionally involved with one of the persons that they share an encounter with. Such a situation can place a great strain on a relationship and if such a liaison looks likely to arise it should be nipped in the bud at the earliest opportunity.

The disgrace of pregnancy in unwed girls is no longer a real problem and some feel that the social welfare benefits given to them, is actually an incentive. However, no one should underestimate the adverse effects that the conceiving of unwanted children can bring. Many a victim of the CSA will confirm this.

The most alarming result of bareback sex is the risk of social diseases. It seems that the widely feared epidemic of Aids has not reached the level some authorities claimed but it would but still devastates some of the African countries. Unnecessary risks should be avoided unless a sexual partner’s history is known to be safe. If in doubt, use a reliable form of contraception.

Whilst swingers are probably more aware of the risks of sexual infection and unwanted pregnancy we should all keep on our guard and try to reduce both of these outcomes and thus enhance the enjoyment of sex without adding to the risks involved.

With the advent of the Internet, the opportunity to organise swingers activities on a much wider scale flourished and although swingers do not form the largest group in leisure activities, their numbers are now at an all time high. Although still not regarded favourably by many ‘straights’ –  (mainly older people), there is not the social stigma involved in this modern era. Swingers are now largely free to enjoy the activities they choose with others of a like mind without fear of recrimination.  The advent of swingers websites such as Swinging Heaven has helped to create a much wider arena for those with a taste for a more adventurous lifestyle.

Looking back over the last 60 years, the modern scene may seem to be more organised and more widespread than it was but it is a sphere that is constantly evolving there is no doubt there are innovations yet to be thought of. The prospects for the swinging set are certainly on the bright side.