Remember No Means No
It must never be assumed that because someone is a fellow swinger that they are up for anything and everything. Whilst some of the more adventurous types will try anything at least once, some have more defined limits. Once the parameters have been agreed for any encounter it would be in order to suggest something more adventurous but undue influence should not be exerted on anyone who shows a reluctance to participate.
No does mean no and should be accepted with good grace. It is not suitable to show signs of disapproval or criticism and pressure to change their mind should never be exerted. If the refusal does not appear to be unequivocal, gentle persuasion would not be inappropriate but ensure this involves coaxing – not bullying. Meetings should result in a pleasurable experience for all involved so do not spoil an occasion if you do not get everything exactly as you might like